On Making Peace With the Fact You’re a Work In Progress
January 30, 2008, 9:22 am
Filed under: life in general


A personal pitfall of mine is that I am impatient. I want my finances to be in a certain place, I want my house to look a certain way, I want my life to be comprised of certain activities, and I want to be a certain person – and I get frustrated that I can’t make all these things happen immediately.

Just because I have a clear vision doesn’t mean I get to move to the head of the line. I’ve been working lately on being satisfied with being en route, and being more forgiving with myself that I’m not “there” yet, wherever “there” might be.

When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice it is small, but we do not criticize it as “rootless and stemless.” We treat it as a seed, giving it the water and nourishment required of a seed.

When it first shoots up out of the earth, we don’t condemn it as immature and underdeveloped; we do not criticize the buds for not being open when they appear. We stand in wonder at the process taking place, and give the plant the care it needs at each stage of its development.

The rose is a rose from the time it is a seed to the time it dies. Within it, at all times, it contains its whole potential. It seems to be constantly in the process of change: Yet at each state, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.

A flower is not better when it blooms than when it is merely a bud; at each stage it is the same thing . . . a flower in the process of expressing its potential.

-Tim Gallwey

This has lovely reverberations with regard to your career in the design field (we don’t all get to be starchitects or designers with our own tv show by age 29) , and the shaping of your belongings and routines to reflect your evolving philosophies. Becoming the architect I want to be is slow going. So is giving up all the habits I have that don’t gel with my sustainable leanings (I confess! I bought food packaged in styrofoam yesterday!).

But it’s okay. Really.

image by Amehare

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